Dear Lyfteenites,
I hope you’re doing well. Today, I want to talk to you about something really important: the consequences of grieving your parents. We all have those moments of frustration or disagreement with them, but it’s crucial to understand how you handle those situations, which can have serious consequences.
When you “grief” your parents, you’re causing them distress, whether intentionally or not. This can happen through harsh words, ignoring their advice, or actions that go against what they’ve taught you. In the heat of the moment, it might seem like no big deal, especially if you’re upset or just want to do things your way. But what you might not realise is how deeply this can affect them and even you.
For instance, when you break a plate and try to piece it back together, it will never look as flawless as it did before. Even if you manage to glue all the fragments, the cracks and gaps will still show. That’s what happens to the relationship between you and your parent when you hurt or grieve them, and no matter how much you try to mend it, the scars remain. So, when you consistently push your parents away or hurt them, it creates a hole in the relationship. You’ve probably seen this in others or maybe even experienced it yourself. Relationships with parents can become strained, and over time, it becomes harder to reconnect. Sometimes, it takes something serious like an illness or a major life change to make you realise how much you’ve lost by not valuing that relationship sooner.
The Bible has a lot to say about how you should treat your parents. In Exodus 20:12, it says, “Honour your father and your mother, so that you may live long in the land the Lord your God is giving you.” This isn’t just about obeying them; it’s about showing respect and valuing the relationship. Proverbs 23:22 also advises, “Listen to your father, who gave you life, and do not despise your mother when she is old.” These verses emphasise the importance of maintaining a loving and respectful relationship with your parents throughout your life.
When you cause grief to your parents, it doesn’t just hurt them; it affects you too. You might later feel a sense of guilt or sadness, realising that you could have handled things better. The strain in your relationship can be a heavy burden, especially when you need their support or guidance later in life.
So, what can you do? It’s simple but not always easy: approach disagreements with love and understanding. Try to see things from their perspective and remember that they’ve been through more than you might realise. If you can communicate openly and respectfully, you’ll not only avoid the negative consequences of grieving them, but you’ll also build a stronger, more positive relationship.
Take this to heart, Lyfteenites. Your parents are a gift, and how you treat them matters, not just to them but to your own life as well.
Take care and stay blessed.
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